1. I trust that people who love me will stay.

2. I’m comfortable depending on and being depended on.

3. I can soothe myself when relationship stress rises.

4. I express my needs openly with my mate.

5. Conflict can be worked through with respect.

6. I bounce back quickly after disagreements.

7. I believe I am worthy of love and care.

8. I give my mate the benefit of the doubt.

9. Emotional intimacy usually feels safe for me.

10. I can be close and still keep my sense of self.

11. I worry my mate will lose interest in me.

12. I often seek reassurance about the relationship.

13. If my mate is distant, I assume I did something wrong.

14. I feel uneasy if my mate doesn’t reply quickly.

15. I fear abandonment even in stable relationships.

16. I think about my mate’s feelings more than my own needs.

17. Small changes in my mate’s mood worry me.

18. I compare myself to others my mate might prefer.

19. I struggle to relax unless I’m sure we’re okay.

20. I hold back what I need to say when I fear upsetting my mate.

21. Too much closeness makes me feel overwhelmed.

22. I prefer to solve problems alone rather than depend on a mate.

23. I downplay or keep my emotions to myself.

24. I feel trapped if a mate needs me a lot.

25. I value independence more than comfort from others.

26. I keep some distance to avoid getting hurt.

27. Deep emotional talks can feel uncomfortable.

28. I’m cautious about vulnerability in relationships.

29. I need plenty of personal space in romance.

30. I feel best when I manage problems on my own.

31. I want closeness but fear getting hurt by it.

32. I feel torn, part of me seeks intimacy, part pulls away.

33. When I get very close, I worry I’ll lose control or be rejected.

34. Sometimes I test mates while also fearing they’ll leave.

35. Emotional ups and downs make my relationships feel unstable.

36. I can be intensely affectionate and then suddenly distant.

37. It’s hard to know who to trust even when I want connection.

38. I feel safer when I keep people at arm’s length, yet I feel lonely.

39. Closeness can trigger both comfort and alarm at the same time.

40. It’s hard to predict how I’ll react when I feel vulnerable.